Stone walls do not make a prison, nor iron bars a cage; innocent and calm minds take that for a hermit, if I have freedom in my love and within my soul I am free…
A few weeks ago I received a 6-year-old girl in session. The reason for consultation was because she lost interest in class and was easily distracted, so her performance had decreased. But when I asked him to do a projective drawing for me, I was able to appreciate permanence in the activity, making surprising strokes and great artistic capacity. Some subjects will not be of interest to her, even so, in the art world she will surely be outstanding.
This anecdote made me remember something I read about a girl with similar symptoms. She didn’t pay much attention in school, but in her drawing class she became different. She asked her teacher on one occasion what she was drawing and she replied: “To God.” The teacher expressed, “But no one knows what God looks like.” The girl replied: “They will know right away.”
It makes me think about the similarity of the stories and how talent transforms a moment into something special. With a certain degree of confidence, he dedicates time to what he knows how to do: drawing. In the case of my patient, there was a certain degree of abuse where her father strongly reprimanded her and sent her to her room for a long time in order to punish her. The little girl, despite her fear and desolation, began to create extraordinary stories in the form of animated stories.
It shows us how, despite adverse life circumstances, resources as valuable as creativity and imagination emerge from within, fundamental aspects to relieve tension and promote esteem. Now, even if you have an unfavorable environment and emotions are in a tailspin, the motivation to do something different is a compensatory mechanism that helps you come out on top.
Before, there was the idea that if a school student got A’s in mathematics, he was very intelligent and if he didn’t, then he wasn’t. Regarding this issue, experts have revealed that there are multiple intelligences and that we should not focus on just one. The important thing is to recognize in this sense that a minor can develop skills for some things and not for others. It is natural, since you cannot be perfect in everything.
There are adults who, when dealing with children, limit their chances of development: “He only spends his time drawing, that’s all he does, what’s the use of that?” The father for some reason blocked the creative part of him and cannot or does not want to see it in others, he is imprisoned in himself and deprives his son of him considering that art is not so important or valuable.
What happens in this case where some control is exercised and there is such a conventional way of thinking, considering only old models to educate. Many minors therefore decline in their interests and motivations. What they really like they put aside and live repressed for a long time or a lifetime, because the adult limited his dreams, as well as his at any given time.
If an infant is allowed to enjoy a purposeful activity and integrate with peers in common activities, it will be a great emotional success. A lot rests on the acceptance of caregivers to guide a little one on the right path. What better than discovering talents from an early age and what affectation for not doing so.
When a child is limited in one way or another, it reveals itself. He will pursue attracting attention as a way of asserting himself and being recognized, even in a negative way. For this reason, problems will arise at home, school or other settings where frustrations and disappointments will be the order of the day.
A little one when he is persevering, stubborn and obstinate, but in a positive way, will excel. For this reason, we must help them to be more authentic, to develop in an environment of trust and security. Only then will they be agents of change and will leave their legacy in this world while being free.
*Postgraduate in child psychotherapy