Gender glossaries and sex education: controversy over school diaries

Imagine discovering, a few days before the beginning of the school year, that in diary about your nine-year-old son, there are a couple of columns you didn’t know about. You bought the diary for him, before putting it in his hand, you leafed through and re-leafed, yet you weren’t really aware of those columns. You chose it for the color, because it has always been one of the hottest diaries and because your child has been asking for it since last year.

The diary in question is the Forgetfulness. The evergreen of school agendas was there even in your day. The cover is harmless, one-color. You have chosen blue, a beautiful intense blue. Two days ago, he calls your teacher and says: “Look, I would like to point out things in your child’s diary, things that do not seem appropriate to his age.” That teacher is called Giusy D’Amico. She is the English teacher and happens to be the president of the association “Don’t touch the family”. She is the one who tells us what happened and the end of the two sections in question: “With the consent of the parent I tore it up, without the pupil realizing it, so as not to stimulate a wrong curiosity in him”. The teacher D’Amico briefly describes the content of those columns: “There is a glossary ongender identity and a section dedicated to sexual education. “He shows them to us, but we want to check for ourselves, also and above all because it is really difficult for us to believe that, at the time of purchase, the unwary parent did not notice anything.

So we decide to enter one of the many bookstores in the center of Rome, we identify a large and well-stocked one, in the hope of going without fail. The school agendas, with the lessons started a few days ago, are starting to run out. We are directed towards a shelf, stacked we find them of all shapes and chromatic varieties. There is also the one we are looking for. The cover is bright, blue, just as they described it, but there is also a shocking pink and white version. Let’s start leafing through it, once, twice, three times. Only on the third attempt do we identify the now famous rubrics. “Cisgender (or cisgenere) is a person who does not identify with the sex assigned to him at birth”, we read. The glossary continues: “Non-binary (or non-binary) is an umbrella term used to describe a person who does not fully identify with either the male or female gender “. And to follow the definitions of” genderqueer or non-conforming gender “, of” transgender “, of”gender fluid“,” gender neutral “and” gender expression “.

Scrolling through the second, however, here are some suggestions on the first approaches to sexuality. Just to name one: “Sex is not just synonymous with complete intercourse: all that turns you on is a ‘sexual experience“. While we try to put order to the so much information absorbed, a doubt torments us. No, we do not want to moralize, that right there we leave it more than willingly to the parents. It is more a question of a practical nature: whoever sells these diaries, is aware The saleswoman clarifies our ideas: “We make the orders based on the request, we have no idea of ​​the contents, also because at the time of ordering we cannot even see the cover”. ‘pockmarked order. But when they arrive at the store, don’t you browse them? “Absolutely not. Of course, on specific request, for a nine-year-old I would not recommend La Smemoranda. “The shop is very large, sells a wide range of items and embraces a rather large clientele. The saleswoman clearly lets us understand that, with all things that there is to be done, they cannot go through the pages of the diaries one by one.

So let’s try to turn to a smaller shop, a family-run stationery shop. Here, for obvious reasons, things work differently. “It’s true that until they arrive at the shop we don’t know what the diaries look like, but when they arrive we check them,” the owner explains. Do you sell Smemoranda? “No, since last year we have already stopped the orders, because we do not share the approach”. The approach? “The education of minors to sexuality it should be left to the parents, but 80 percent of those who come to shop don’t even look through their diaries, just look at the aesthetics. “And from the aesthetics, as we have already said, it’s really difficult to guess something. that someone would bring her back? “Not to me, but I know colleagues who have happened to, and I can assure you that it is always an embarrassing situation.”

And in such cases? What rights does the buyer have? We ask the Codacons. “Since these are not flaws or defects, or illegal or prohibited content, the seller is under no obligation to replace the product or refund the amount”. Of course, if the agenda is new, you can always give it a try, and in that case everything is left to the discretion and availability of the shopkeeper. “It is always the buyer’s responsibility to check what he buys.” What if the minor directly makes the purchase? “All the more reason the parent should carefully check the purchase, they are common sense rules of parental responsibility”. In short, for the distracted adult, the safest way is to get a nice pair of scissors and follow the example of the teacher D’Amico.

But don’t tell it to Maria Rachele Ruiu, mother of two and historic pro-life and pro-family activist. For her, in school agendas, certain topics should not really be there. “It is serious that an instrument made for the very young sponsors and disseminates a-scientific theories, which all over the world are proving to be dangerous. ddl Zan has set the political and adult landscape on fire, and what do they do? Are they proposing to our children what has not passed in Parliament? “. Ruiu is already aware of the” Smemoranda case “. She explains to us that, at the level of associations, the rumble started in June. And she takes leave with a warning : “It is yet another confirmation that we parents must be even more vigilant, they are trying to indoctrinate our children in all ways”.

Gender glossaries and sex education: controversy over school diaries